Over the weekend, I read the most incredible and on point article about being a stay at home mom, written by, gasp, a man. It was spot on and I found my self nodding and agreeing with everything he said. You must check out the article HERE, it is appropriately called Being a Stay at Home Mom, What do you do all day? Matt Walsh’s wife is one lucky lady, for the fact that he realizes how hard it is being a stay at home mom. Sometimes I think men don’t quite get it.
It got me thinking alot about being a stay at home mom. As soon as I got pregnant with Sterling I knew I wanted to be a stay at home mom. We grew up with my mom home with us and I wanted that same experience. I realize some people don’t have the option or luxury to stay at home with their kids, wheter they choose to go back to work (trust me I can understand why you would choose the adult world over poop and baby talk all day) or the fact that finicially they need two incomes. As luck would have it the company I worked for while I was pregnant with Sterling got hit hard by the down turn in the economy and I was laid off the weekend before I had Sterling. They offered no maternity leave so this was just as good. I knew I probably won’t go back full time after I had Sterling, but had thought about part time. I was never the bread winner anyways so by the time we added in daycare it wasn’t financially worth it for me to work anyways.
You see I choose to be a stay at home mom. Yes, things are tight around here and there have been times when we have had to rely on our families to help us out. I am lucky in that aspect, that they will lend a helping hand. I choose to have less, meaning we have not taken a vacation since our honeymoon (except for our beach trip which my family pays for) because I want to be home with Sterling. We desperately need more space but just can’t afford to move to a bigger house right now, for the same reason. It makes you realize yes, money is important but not the most important thing in life. I would not change a thing, I am so grateful to stay home with Sterling. I love spending so much quality time with him while he is young and watching him grow and mature into such a sweet, loving and quirky little man. I have witnessed all of his “firsts” and seen his personality develop and to me that is worth more than gold. I will forever treasure these times and memories.
Being a stay at home is mom is a long ass day. I don’t understand the people who think our day is easy and that we sit around and watch tv all day. In fact most days I rarely watch TV unless its cartoons for Sterling. Sterling wakes up before the sun rises everyday single day (seriously 6:45 is a late start for us) and is non stop from the moment he wakes up. At this age Sterling always needs something- food, juice, help building a puzzle, help getting dressed, help using the bathroom (at what age can you stop wiping your kids bottom?), etc. In between tending to his needs I also have to take care of our dog and all the household responsibilities. Making sure the house is clean, sheets are changed, laundry is done, drycleaning dropped off, dinner is cooked, you get the idea. Then somewhere in between all that I try to take an hour for me and work on my blog, because that is what I enjoy plus it provides me with some spending money. Until about a month ago I was also working at home part time at my old job but finally had to quit because I was just too over stretched, I don’t know how some women juggle it all.
The days are incredibly long as a stay at home mom. I am exhasuted by 7 most nights, just the time Matt is getting home from work. I feel bad because by then I am done for the day and just want to get in bed but marriage is important too so I make an effort for us all to eat togther as a family and catch up with Matt. You can’t forget about your spouse even though your kids drain the life out of you. This clip from family guy pretty much sums it up, there is always someone yelling “mom”.
I think being at stay at home mom is one of the most under-appreciated jobs around. We always put our needs last and rarely get any down time. Even on the weekends it is just me and Sterling because Matt works most weekends. After becoming a mom myself it made me appreciate all that my mom sacrificed and gave to us even more. At times I am envious of people who go to work and have that adult time, I am sure it nice to have a break from your kids but I still wouldn’t change a thing. My heart broke for my sister and sister in law when they had to go back to work, I know hard it is to leave your baby when they are young, especially when you don’t want to.
I think the years when your kids are young are fleeting, they go by so fast and I feel so grateful to be able to spend all this time with Sterling. I truly love being a stay at home mom. I rarely get a thank you, but I know I am helping to mold my son into a good person and that is all that matters. Bravo to all you stay at home moms, I know what tough but equally rewarding job it it.
Word to your Mother. and yes I am terrified of being a SAHM to two kids- yikes!