Now that I am pregnant the most frequent question I get is are you going to find out the sex of the baby? Immediately followed by what would rather you a girl or a boy?
I am most definitely going to find out the sex, I am a type A planner and I want to know what is going to come out of me in 5 months. I like to decorate and shop way too much not to know. I have no idea how people can wait nine months to find out!
As for the second question if I am being honest, all I want is a healthy baby, I could care less if it is a boy or a girl. Most people say to me ” I bet you are hoping for a girl, since you already have a boy.” It got me thinking did any of you have a preference what you wanted your second child to be? Same sex or one of each?
Truthfully when I was pregnant with Sterling, I was secretly hoping for a girl. I was actually convinced it was a girl and was shocked when we went for the ultrasound and they said “look there is the penis”. I was like what??? It took me a few days to accept the fact that I was indeed about to have a boy. I am such a girly girl and I am so close with my mom and my sister I wished for a girl for that reason. I wanted to have that same bond. I had the girl stuff down, I love to dress up, paint my nails, shop, read fashion magazines, all things I pictured doing with my daughter. I was young and clueless about the world of babies. I had no idea how much I could or would love having a little boy.
Then Sterling was born and he changed my life. I never for a second looked back and wished that he had been a girl. The moment I laid eyes on him for the first time my heart melted and I fell in love instantly. There is just something so sweet about boys. Being the mom of a little boy is the best thing ever. Yes everything they say about boys is true, they are dirty, sneaky, pee everywhere, spill food everywhere, track dirt all through you house, bring bugs inside, snore, and are loud and smelly- all typical boy stuff. But it is also true they also love their Moms more than anything. Sterling is 100% percent a Mama’s boy and I love it. He always wants to hug and kiss me and cuddle and it just warms my heart. There is nothing better than being a mom to boy. I have fully embraced spiderman, batman, dinosaurs, cars, and sports plus I am pro at shopping for boy clothes now. I adore having a boy and all the things that come with it.
As for our next baby, I promise all I want is a healthy baby because that is the biggest blessing of all. I see pluses to either sex. I want a boy because I would love Sterling to have a brother. I sometimes feel like same sex siblings are closer. A boy would also be easier, I have so much boy stuff already and I have this boy thing down, plus I would be the only woman of the house. Sterling insists there is a boy in my belly and whenever we ask him if wishes it were a boy or girl he says boy. But I want a girl for the same reason I wanted a girl with Sterling. As they say a daughter is a daughter for life and a son until he meets his wife. Girls are so much better about calling their moms and staying in touch. Plus not gonna lie I love all the little girl clothes it would be fun to shop for girl stuff. This time around I feel like it a win win no matter what I have. I am just so thankful for this pregnancy and can’t wait to have another baby boy or girl.
Here is one thing that scares me with the next baby- I wonder how in the
world I will ever love it as much as Sterling. Will Sterling always be
my favorite? I just can’t understand how I will love another child like
him. Your firstborn is just so special.
We should find out in about 3-4 weeks what we are having so humor me and take a guess do you think we are having a boy or girl?
Also if you have not read the article in the NY Times “The Gift of Siblings” floating around, please do, it is so true and an excellent read. I am so blessed to have my brother and sister and no matter what sex this baby is I am so excited to give Sterling a sibling, because lets be real the main reason I am having another child is for him. I want him to grow up having a sibling, because Siblings are the best! The bond I have with my brother and sister is for life!